hmm just heard from a teacher in an online course to avoid trauma processing until you have secure attachment which 🤔 big if true
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I think that that claim in its literal form is too strong, but something like "several forms of trauma are rooted in early attachment wounds that will keep getting retriggered until you heal those original injuries" might be right.
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yeah this makes sense and i might buy it. this feels related:
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Replying to @SarahAMcManus
I've felt disdain for this technique in the past but after some time I realised my "healing" was just back to back flashbacks because I was too prideful and egotistical to admit that sometimes you need distance and rest before tackling something.
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Probably also related was the claim that at least if you have severe disorganized attachment then you're basically guaranteed to develop complex PTSD, because you can't help constantly running into stuff that triggers you and which you experience as traumatic.
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this definitely tracks, a lot of my fears were based on cultural messaging of what's bad or good, or things I was lightly teased about. Other people being playful was perceived as lessons filed under "avoid or be abandoned"
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The more I look the more I see basic body functions denied because my traumatised ass saw messages about like gurgling tummies being embarrassing or girls never farting, and not knowing how the fuck I'm even supposed to address that?? except tense up and try not to exist
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:(
this but for feminism specifically, for me