really weird how you describe a problem you’re having and then people try to help you with that problem 🤔🤔🤔 i don’t really get it yet but thank you
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this is a whole other thing to get into some other time but it continues to viscerally confuse me when people are nice to me
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oh, i guess more specific than this: it viscerally confuses me when people are nice to me *after i have revealed myself to be incompetent*
it does ‘t confuse me when people are nice to me after i have done a cool thing
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uuugh this is too real
inconsistent reward from primary caregivers in childhood => child tries to figure out what causes inconsistency, using magical thinking => "reward goes away when I am not good enough" => carry this belief through life
pretty sick of it tbh
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