hey apropos of absolutely nothing what would it take for me, personally, to become mark zuckerberg's personal coach / therapist / shaman
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people are mostly using it as an opportunity to make fun of him but the robotic / lizard-person quality of his appearance and esp. his face is a trauma / emotional suppression symptom and he could look 1000% more human if he cried into my arms for a week
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one thing i'm really confused about: why does trauma even exist in the first place?
are we just so far out of the ancestral env that trauma is almost always bad now? if not, what trauma should we hold on to??
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i asked a version of this question once and he responded with a hypothesis by that basically we have ancestral trauma that is good at reproducing itself (in a cycles of abuse kind of way) but not necessarily good for its individual human hosts
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which frankly is one of the most terrifying things i've ever heard and really put the entire history of human civilization in a new light. this has been haunting me, honestly
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This is a great thread. I actually have a section on my BEF videos called Cultural DNA. Its how the trauma impression you take from one of your parents set you to find an complement to that pattern as a partner, often similar to the other parent.
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That "trauma bond" pattern usually keeps the relationship together long enough to have children at which point the patterns are passed on to those offspring, ad infinitum. Much of the historical mental health dysfunction our culture sees as "genetic" I see as passed on this way.
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seems plausible to me 😬