really weird how you describe a problem you’re having and then people try to help you with that problem 🤔🤔🤔 i don’t really get it yet but thank you
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this is a whole other thing to get into some other time but it continues to viscerally confuse me when people are nice to me
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oh, i guess more specific than this: it viscerally confuses me when people are nice to me *after i have revealed myself to be incompetent*
it does ‘t confuse me when people are nice to me after i have done a cool thing
no, you see visa, the difference is, that kid is not me
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Weakness is temporary, something to fight through.
Many people ( myself included ) find great joy in helping others through their struggles.
Maybe you reveal yourself to be incompetent for a moment, but that does not mean that you are permanently destined to be so.
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Okay, but now that you have felt that feeling, how do you think that will affect how you treat others who might be struggling in ways that you can relate to, particularly in domains where you do do feel confident and secure in your ability?
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The people who bring you down or turn themselves away when you stumble exist. When there's competition on status they may be near.
What's your intention in this thread ? Is it a way to thanks? To give yourself a moment to rejoice ? :)
they are both confusing
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Being helpful is an important need that is harder to fulfill nowadays.
At least for me, being "incompetent" is dropping your weapons in the game of "who is better". After that I can just not play this game and we will have a normal conversation
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