so it might be that you're asking "how do you know that what you want is the right thing to do", or "how is it that you want something at all" or something like that
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unfortunately i am literally asking how you know you want something
hmm
have you never suppressed your desires and needed to unsuppress them 🤔
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if you don't feel you want something then you don't want anything, simple as
desires are self-evident
go sit down and stare at the wall until there is something that you find undesirable about that condition, then investigate what could possibly be better than staring at a wall
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One of things Marie Kondo mentions when talking about “Spark Joy” is this idea that... for a lot of people, when they touch their things, they don’t even really have any feelings at all. It’s “just stuff”, and they have to *practice* feeling the feelings. Turning up the voltage
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basically if you have suppressed your feelings you need to practice feeling them again. it’s like wiggling numb fingers or toes. I’m kinda surprised you’re asking these 101 questions, didn’t you make some breakthroughs with sobsquad and so on...?
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(referring to QC)
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the breakthroughs were in different directions than this
or shallower layers than this idk
think i have old stuff to work through here
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I would say “how do you know you want” is the wrong question. My nephews want things and they don’t always know that they want them. Knowing and wanting are separate things
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hm okay “knowing” is not quite the thing i care about. what i mean is that several people have said some version of “relaxing is when i do whatever i want” and i am asking how you do that, how does the wanting connect up to the doing
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well how do you answer that question when it comes to say, taking a shit or a piss
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honestly it’s surprisingly difficult, often i have to make a conscious decision to notice and care and sometimes it takes hours past the first bodily signal
yea so basically work backwards from that. there’s some decision point eventually, right? when the discomfort becomes unbearable? so work backwards from that and start trying to be mindful of the sensations and reduce hours to minutes then seconds. and then you’ll be enlightened
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In some cultures it is normal that children grow up in an environment that invalidates every organic desire and are taught instead to conform to what society expects of them; in these cases they do experience a powerful dissociation from the self; all superego, silenced id
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