the chad "not wanting to come out bc you're scared of being abused or ejected from your home"
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the virgin "not wanting to come out bc you dont want people to think you're being a narcissist"
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v odd i dont feel like a legitimate enby but i've come out to my parents and anyone who follows me on facebook i guess
feels like since i'm at zero risk of negative consequences beyond "being ignored or talked about behind my back" i should probably be louder about it??
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but i dont know how to do this if it like, doesnt come up in conversation
hm although i dont ask people to refer to me by they/them pronouns when they call me "she"
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unclear how much i just dont care about names and pronouns vs how much is just a desperation not to slightly inconvenience people 🙃
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note related: i like you, goblin. i like and appreciate you very much.
wrt the actual topic of this thread: imo "coming out" is a fake idea unless you are an actual celebrity with a platform. for us normals it happens with every new person you meet.
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my strat is usually when they say their name I say. "im sorry if I forget it, I'm really bad with names. one time I dated a guy for 2 months thinking his name was william but it was actually Matthew"
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