“everyone is confused about masculinity” 🔜 start a men’s group, run men’s retreats (okay this one is hard now)
“religion is good actually” 🔜 start a church (okay this one is also hard now)
etc. etc. and yet approximately none of these conversions are happening
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for good reasons of course! we’re dealing with lockdown depression on top of whatever crazy shit we were dealing with before lockdown. all sorts of fears and confusions to sort through around money, careers, doing stuff, taking risks, working with other people, it’s a minefield
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on top of just really concrete lack of social, emotional, financial resources; this is not something i talk about too much but i happen to be really lucky to be sitting on a decent pile of savings rn and i might as well use it to figure this money stuff out
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i spent years developing and refining a toolkit specifically for dealing with shit like this. okay i have fears and confusions around making money. great. what if i articulated all of them
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is there something fundamentally evil about making money? will attempting it turn me into a sleazy salesman?
no, i can clearly see people in my orbit like and and and who are maintaining their integrity while making money
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i’ve never had a real job and i feel embarrassed about it. will that lack of experience fuck me over?
probably but only way to remedy a lack of experience is to acquire experience. meanwhile you have tons of more experienced people in your network to ask for advice
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what if i fuck up and it’s real bad and i disappoint a lot of people and they yell at me
that could happen. try not to overpromise. start small. make small bets. do 1% thing. ask your amazing friends for advice. you’re not alone
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[no words but just a clenched feeling in my stomach]
aw it’s okay little buddy we will try this time to actually address all of our actual objections instead of forcing ourselves to ignore some of them to get things done. we learned that doesn’t work
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the way to have good sex has so little to do with sex and so much to do with trust, non-sexual intimacy, social roles, power, play, and trauma
or in simpler words, "(most of) you don't want to have sex. you want someone you like/admire to show they care in the way you know"
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sex advice becomes trauma therapy mixed with sometimes queer issues, politics, and community advice lol
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yes for sure, *and* there's a big demand for this sort of thing and some of us should be able to support ourselves doing it!!!
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I wish. Sometimes the ppl I listen to and help with things also get stuff from me cuz they're extremely poor ;;
dream goal is to find some crack in the world to make money off of rich ppl and continue helping ones that aren't tbh
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