a lot of the ideas floating around Have Good Opinions Twitter have concrete financial value in theory, stuff like
“modern architecture sucks” 🔜 start an architecture firm
“everyone is confused about sex” 🔜 start a sex column, become a sex coach, make sex ed youtube vids
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“everyone is confused about masculinity” 🔜 start a men’s group, run men’s retreats (okay this one is hard now)
“religion is good actually” 🔜 start a church (okay this one is also hard now)
etc. etc. and yet approximately none of these conversions are happening
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for good reasons of course! we’re dealing with lockdown depression on top of whatever crazy shit we were dealing with before lockdown. all sorts of fears and confusions to sort through around money, careers, doing stuff, taking risks, working with other people, it’s a minefield
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on top of just really concrete lack of social, emotional, financial resources; this is not something i talk about too much but i happen to be really lucky to be sitting on a decent pile of savings rn and i might as well use it to figure this money stuff out
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i spent years developing and refining a toolkit specifically for dealing with shit like this. okay i have fears and confusions around making money. great. what if i articulated all of them
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is there something fundamentally evil about making money? will attempting it turn me into a sleazy salesman?
no, i can clearly see people in my orbit like and and and who are maintaining their integrity while making money
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i’ve never had a real job and i feel embarrassed about it. will that lack of experience fuck me over?
probably but only way to remedy a lack of experience is to acquire experience. meanwhile you have tons of more experienced people in your network to ask for advice
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what if i fuck up and it’s real bad and i disappoint a lot of people and they yell at me
that could happen. try not to overpromise. start small. make small bets. do 1% thing. ask your amazing friends for advice. you’re not alone
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[no words but just a clenched feeling in my stomach]
aw it’s okay little buddy we will try this time to actually address all of our actual objections instead of forcing ourselves to ignore some of them to get things done. we learned that doesn’t work
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one thing that’s helping this process feel less terrible than it would’ve been in the past is i am attempting to give myself permission to raise literally 100 objections and discard literally 100 ideas until i find something that feels good enough to execute on
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getting my own enthusiastic consent about the way i make money
what a wild concept
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relevant piece of the puzzle buried in the replies
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yes. this is why i'm giving myself permission to generate and reject a whole bunch of ideas! i was honestly stuck on this for a long time because somehow i had convinced myself that coaching was what i "should" be doing and wasn't willing to dismiss it despite real objections
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And you can call me for support. I want this version of you to come out. The world will be better for it.
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thank you man feels good to know you're in my corner 🔥🙏
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my rule of thumb (caveat: I have not made independent money) is that the goal is to *earn a living*, rather than *to make money*
you're looking to satisfice, not maximize, dollar
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My approach is to balance these. Make as much as I possibly can while still feeling like I'm genuinely earning it
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