This book physically hurts to read the way I imagine it hurts for a teenage boy’s leg bones to grow 10 inches in a summer
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The author is talking about how his mother learning to self-soothe at the age of 70 made him feel cared for. Ugh the feels.
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“Self-soothing involves meeting two core challenges of selfhood: (a) not losing yourself to the pressures and demands of others, and...”
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“(b) developing your capacity for self-centering (stabilizing your own emotions and fears). Sometimes we miss the chance to become self-centering and self-soothing because we fear becoming self-centered—selfish, self-preoccupied, and indifferent to others.”
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I can definitely see where I struggle with this, myself—particularly around work.
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Ahhhh shut up shut up lalalalala
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I can tell I’m waaay beyond my capacity to metabolise these teachings in the moment and yet I’m racing through the book like a bag of popcorn
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Ok we’re back at it. This dude is killing me.
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esther perel writes about related stuff in "mating in captivity" i think
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yup! it's like a full half of the thing
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Replying to @utotranslucence
that tension between fusion/sexuality sounds very Esther Perel!
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oh lol beat me to it, should've figured there were esther perellians around here