that was pretty good huh
idk i've had a lot worse success with some other people though. i guess i don't have a clear sense of what like success % is reasonable to expect
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Could be a matter of figuring out why it works with some and not others, then niching down after that. But you're definitely skilled man.
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Like one of only 5 people I'd go to for emotional support skilled.
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thanks man, def means a lot coming from you 🙏
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i guess it's like... i know i often get good results when i feel "on" in a particular way, and i oscillate between feeling "on" and not and idk how to like... be consistently "on" enough to feel like i'm doing right by clients?
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Giving advice to myself:
- Systematize your basic emotional tools (especially grounding & being kind to yourself), and practice them ***yourself*** til they're totally habit / reflex / non-challenging
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Still giving advice to myself
- Give yourself permission (& set client expectations) that you may need to reschedule if you're having a super "off" day
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as a data point, a coach that i was working with did this to me once and i was totally fine with it and happy that she was taking care of herself (only once, out of like ~15 sessions total maybe)
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re: the previous tweet on actually practicing techniques for yourself --
I intend to write out a Manual for Being Kind to Myself (+ general instructions for doing this exercise) and will quote tweet this when I do
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Things I could totally stand to do more of, myself:
- Pendulation
- Feeding Your Demons
- Core Transformation
(mostly stuff from this page, and also the one on internal conflict / parts work: roamresearch.com/#/app/HowToHum )
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fyi i rebelled against all of my own techniques over the last 8 weeks and i probably could've handled that better but i think there was something good about it. they were getting faker and more coercy and i needed to get back in touch with a realer version of them
focusing is like the least susceptible to whatever this fakeness thing is
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How's shikantaza?
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Been pondering a reply to this... something about "bootstrapping internal self-trust"...
aw dammit is it both the starting point and also the whole damn thing
is this dzogchen AGAIN
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hmmhmmhmmmmm