okay so like. uh. this feels like an embarrassing question to ask but. what should i do with my life
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i don't think i know how to make decisions. has anyone ever made a decision? how do you make decisions
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you don't! esp. not for goals. you look ONTO the horizon and DISCOVER goals already extant there. had something on that. study phenomenology!!
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World horizon or self horizon or both?
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play around and see what sticks as fun
then give up on it and become a corporate drone. jkjk but yeah looking around: travel, experimenting, ppl, etc. is a good thing to do if you're not sure
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often I only realize I've made a decision in retrospect, tho; the above is for the times where I recognize a decision point in advance (very rare)
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I loved the book "Designing Your Life" for this. Read it four years ago and still think of it about once a week.
Their main thing: realizing that you can break down "stuff you want" into action steps, and also *prototyping* to confirm if u actually want smth vs. just think u do
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And by "stuff you want," I mean this stuff:
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Blows my mind how we talk ourselves out of our internal knowings all the time.
Until ~4 years ago, I thought so much of my deepest wants - love, beauty, spaciousness - were things I had to ignore in order to get on with my life.
Now I'm like...u mean I can make them my life??!
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idk I just had my parents push it onto me constantly until I picked something out of sheer desperation
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Wait until I *have* to decide then do it in a blind panic lol
Best advice I can give is figure out your priorities. Are you more about finding interesting things, helping others, financial success? Figure out how important those things are -- which can be negotiated out?
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