I once attended an overly neurotic consent workshop in which participants (who were mostly all already friends) were urged to ask for consent before hugging each other. I told some people there that i'd feel safer if they hugged me without asking first and they refused
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I did this intentionally to point out the disconnect between professed values (make people feel safe) and practice (always ask for verbal consent), but i think everyone was too scared of breaking consensus rules to listen to me
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this came up in a big way in an authentic relating workshop i was at, it's a long story but at some point i did get to say to the group that i loved being hugged without being asked and that it made me feel great