patiently explained it to me a bunch and i realized i was trying to pretend that i wasn't a 3 for 3 reasons ๐
most of what i found helpful about it was realizing other people *weren't 3s*
i had a bunch of implicit typical mind assumptions like "ah probably secretly everyone loves attention as much as i do and is just hiding it to be polite" and the enneagram is where i learned that that was not true and that was valuable (obv there are other ways to learn this)
anyway on a meta note i think of the different typing systems roughly as like different "bases" (in the linear algebra sense) of the "space of personalities" and some people will short descriptions in some bases and some people will have short descriptions in others