ok, ok, ok, in a matching tone i have a thing to try
but i want to know if you want half-baked advice first
because i dont want to be a dick
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appreciate the warning, go for it
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ok, so you were kinda describing being depressed, and basically not knowing what to do with yourself even if you tried "not being depressed"
but by default, people just know what they want next
like there's a "place" they look, and just know. Future actions seem valuable or not
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if/when that's not your experience, I pose, it means some piece of you is doing something to *keep you* from knowing what you want, what would be good or feel right or whatever.
So: Who or what in you doesn't want you to know what you want, and why?
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To be real specific -- as much as it feels otherwise, your knowledge of what's worth is not *quite* something that you achieve.
It's something that you stop forbidding yourself to know.
((ofc: ymmv, ianal, side effects similar to sugar pill, etc etc)
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hmm i mean i buy that this is a thing in general and it could be happening rn but i think it’s more that everything seems super hopeless, like i can’t think of any actions to meaningfully improve my situation that wouldn’t be super obnoxiously hard like just moving out of cali
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that sounds totally reasonable right up to "super obnoxiously hard"
like if it's really the only way to make things more fine
and you really need to make things more fine
and you really stably know all of that
then the necessary plan will be tiring, maybe, but not that hard
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i don’t stably know anything 😬
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actually, nope, I'm wrong, I take back the previous statement.
Despite its idiomatic use, *things* aren't hopeless. Hope is a stance towards the world, which can be adopted however the world is. You're avoiding what's in you.
Why do you have to be hopeless ?
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... hell, tone, I'm guessing that's not really going to work as a question. Try this:
Basically, you *really do* have some reason that you need to feel hopeless (or maybe helpless or nonthreatening). It's doing something *good* for you. What's the critical good it's doing?
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hmm boy do i not want to ask myself this question lol
for me: hopelessness is an excuse to remain powerless, and to avoid taking actions
it's easy to justify taking no actions if nothing one can do will help!
if what you want is simply impossible
or
do you want
to be the kind of person
who can shut up and do the impossible
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I mean, yeah, it's sometimes this for me too
but sometimes it's other things
minds vary even within themselves.
(And why do you want to take no action in the first place?)
((Also there is no such thing as "no action"! What does "no action" even mean?))
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