poll 2 of 2: what's your ~gender | do you feel like your social environment is pressuring you to have kids or not to have kids (let's count neutral as "no")
e.g. do you feel like if you told your friends you wanted to have kids that they'd be supportive or make fun of you
there's very high pressures on female employees (and *especially* academics and startup founders) to not have kids - VCs and tenure committees are known for believing that having kids is seen as a detraction from a career