poll 1 of 2: what's your ~gender | do you want to or already have kids?
- ~male | yes kids58.2%
- ~male | no kids22.4%
- ~female | yes kids11.2%
- ~female | no kids8.2%
1,208 votesFinal results
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poll 2 of 2: what's your ~gender | do you feel like your social environment is pressuring you to have kids or not to have kids (let's count neutral as "no")
e.g. do you feel like if you told your friends you wanted to have kids that they'd be supportive or make fun of you
- ~male | yes kids32.3%
- ~male | no kids45.4%
- ~female | yes kids10%
- ~female | no kids12.3%
659 votesFinal results
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fwiw: i want a healthy marriage and kids twitter.com/antihero_kate/…
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poll 3 of 2, for people who want kids only (pls do not click on a random option to see the results i will screenshot them):
what's your ~gender | would you feel comfortable bringing up that you want kids on the first date
- ~male | comfy36.8%
- ~male | uncomfy37.9%
- ~female | comfy12.1%
- ~female | uncomfy13.2%
174 votesFinal results
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there's very high pressures on female employees (and *especially* academics and startup founders) to not have kids - VCs and tenure committees are known for believing that having kids is seen as a detraction from a career
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the ~ is for "approximate" for people who aren't entirely gender-conforming in various ways
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I wonder how much of the social environment is either career or economic pressure (“wait until you finish grad school, have a high paying career, and savings!”)
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yeah i want to ask about economic pressure but i can't think of a good way to word the question
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Really depends I think - parents yes, grandparents champing at the bit, my friends wouldn't care either way
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Friends and social environment are different here. I think my friends would support me, but the general abstract culture would not (e.g. Women are valued based on career performance/feminism and for my hypothetical wife to have kids would be a status blow for her).
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