I feel like people theorising the link between kinks and trauma often miss the point. You don't need complex theories to explain why someone is into a particular kink - it's just fun. What you need to explain is why people are stuck in a particular range of fun things.
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i don’t understand this. what does it mean for something to be “just fun”? i don’t experience hardly anything as “just fun”
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I don't mean that it's "just fun" in the sense that it has no other emotional dynamics involved, I mean that the fun is a sufficient explanation for being into it.
As to what that means... it's a physically pleasurable creative social activity. What's not to like?
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the way i interpret your language you’re talking as if fun is an intrinsic property of activities and that doesn’t make ontological sense to me. obviously some things are fun for some people and not others and that’s exactly the phenomenon under investigation
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most of the common kink stuff is stuff i would not find fun personally, i don’t find pain fun, i don’t find degradation fun in either direction, etc. in my view there’s a lot to be explained here!
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Do you also feel that there's a lot to be explained about why some people are into D&D and some people are into football?
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some but less?
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For what it's worth, I do think it's generally not that hard to understand why any given thing is fun, and it's usually not that complicated and for reasons that generalise. Individual variation is usually more down to whether you can / it's worth it to get into it.
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Oh, sure, there's a lot to unpack in the subject - especially about one's personal relationship with it and whether you're able to find a particular thing fun or not. It's figuring out why a given thing might be fun to someone that I don't think is generally hard.
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this continues to seem like a really weird perspective to me but i’m having trouble articulating why
also feeling slightly triggered which is not helping. i think i feel like you’re saying i’m stupid
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I don't think you're stupid, and I suspect my perspective is actually unusual. I think it's not hard in the sense that it's easy to do once you've learned how to do it, but I don't think many people learn how to do it.
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