I feel like people theorising the link between kinks and trauma often miss the point. You don't need complex theories to explain why someone is into a particular kink - it's just fun. What you need to explain is why people are stuck in a particular range of fun things.
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i donât understand this. what does it mean for something to be âjust funâ? i donât experience hardly anything as âjust funâ
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I don't mean that it's "just fun" in the sense that it has no other emotional dynamics involved, I mean that the fun is a sufficient explanation for being into it.
As to what that means... it's a physically pleasurable creative social activity. What's not to like?
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the way i interpret your language youâre talking as if fun is an intrinsic property of activities and that doesnât make ontological sense to me. obviously some things are fun for some people and not others and thatâs exactly the phenomenon under investigation
most of the common kink stuff is stuff i would not find fun personally, i donât find pain fun, i donât find degradation fun in either direction, etc. in my view thereâs a lot to be explained here!
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Do you also feel that there's a lot to be explained about why some people are into D&D and some people are into football?
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the way I read it is that fun is obv not intrinsic, but there are some good generalizable reasons things are fun, one of which is the thrill of violating taboos. and then ofc you will run up against individual thresholds for this type of thrill based on personality, history, etc.
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