I feel like people theorising the link between kinks and trauma often miss the point. You don't need complex theories to explain why someone is into a particular kink - it's just fun. What you need to explain is why people are stuck in a particular range of fun things.
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i donāt understand this. what does it mean for something to be ājust funā? i donāt experience hardly anything as ājust funā
Why is any given activity āfunā?
What did you learn in your life that makes a specific thing feel good emotionally?
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thatās exactly the question, yes!
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I don't mean that it's "just fun" in the sense that it has no other emotional dynamics involved, I mean that the fun is a sufficient explanation for being into it.
As to what that means... it's a physically pleasurable creative social activity. What's not to like?
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the way i interpret your language youāre talking as if fun is an intrinsic property of activities and that doesnāt make ontological sense to me. obviously some things are fun for some people and not others and thatās exactly the phenomenon under investigation
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it's when you're meditating and also smiling
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