mostly just wanted to get it out but commentary you feel like would be helpful is welcome
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I find the idea that you just wanted the sensation of getting it out and it has nothing to do with wanting any of the consequences of getting it out
a) laughable, unlikely
b) profoundly pathological
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uh... that’s not what i said? why are you being this hostile?
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I am reading into the "just". More people should notice "just"s and how much they are hiding.
Hostile... :/? Do I come across as if I want to remove something? What thing?
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i’m balanced on the edge of blocking but i like your tweets so i’ll wait. i think you’re misreading the “just,” writing things out is useful for me, it’s easier for me to write things out on twitter than privately, i did not intend to imply that i didn’t want feedback
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calling something i said “laughable” and “profoundly pathological” reads hostile to me and i think that’s a reasonable read. if you’re trying to pull some socratic questioning with that last tweet i decline. i don’t play games like that with people who tweet like they hate me
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No, it was an earnest question, for me. I don't like those games either.
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okay this is what i was hoping for and why i didn’t just block. the first tweet comes across very hateful for no reason
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I wouldn't talk to people I hate that way.
Hmm, here's a screenshot from a place where people are very open with each other that explains a cultural assumption that I think is good
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The people who we actually hate are the people we should work hard not to alienate. The people who we trust and respect and are familiar with are the people we can afford to play rough with, hoping that they would not one day suddenly think we're trying to injure them.
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welp i definitely thought you were trying to injure me but i did also hold out hope that i was wrong and i guess i’m glad i did. and like... i get the playing rough thing but i think it’s real hard to do over text without a pretty solid previous history of interaction
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I'm starting to wonder if [formative denezin] from that channel is right and anonymized venues are inherently more productive because there isn't status to attack or protect and so you can just wrastle. Probably not, accountability is important. But I get the appeal.