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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
this is interesting! remember reading some stuff a while back about how when asked to rate empirical attractiveness men rating women tend to have more consistent inter-rater agreement than women rating men do. maybe women put more weight on the execution side then men?
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
maybe the reliance on pictures is an inherent disadvantage for men on apps since you can only show off the potential side and have no way to show off execution abilities
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
seems more masculine to me. i think part of is is about constraints. part of streotypical masculinity is being willing to ignore/disregard social constraints. you can't do that well in constrained apps like dating apps. but twitter is unstructured enough to allow it.
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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID 😷)
@QiaochuYuan
yes i think twitter has more affordances for displays of healthy masculinity than dating apps but it’s still not super great, e.g. it’s very disembodied by default, people mostly don’t post video of themselves so you don’t get to hear their voices or see their bodies in motion
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
it's a catch-22. actual masculinity is not performative, but you can't put it on twitter (or any social media) without being performative
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lisatomic
@lisatomic5
Ok I have a question I hope other people will chime in on: do you perceive this man as *angry* (right at the beginning), and do you experience it as frightening? I ask bc I maybe have a “male anger” trauma/trigger and I have been told that I am misreading anger.
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