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lisatomic
@lisatomic5
FWIW my sister and I distinguish two types of attraction. Forgive me, we came up with this when we were v young but it’s still useful: “potential” and “execution.” My male family members have no idea what we are talking about:
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lisatomic
@lisatomic5
“Potential” is like how attractive are they in a photograph, like a drivers license or while sleeping or something, where you can’t see any expressiveness or personality. “Execution” is the opposite, how attractive they are based on animation/expressiveness/personality
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
this is interesting! remember reading some stuff a while back about how when asked to rate empirical attractiveness men rating women tend to have more consistent inter-rater agreement than women rating men do. maybe women put more weight on the execution side then men?
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
maybe the reliance on pictures is an inherent disadvantage for men on apps since you can only show off the potential side and have no way to show off execution abilities
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
seems more masculine to me. i think part of is is about constraints. part of streotypical masculinity is being willing to ignore/disregard social constraints. you can't do that well in constrained apps like dating apps. but twitter is unstructured enough to allow it.
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dingledoorf
@dingledoorf
it's a catch-22. actual masculinity is not performative, but you can't put it on twitter (or any social media) without being performative
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