i don’t want to make this a whole thing but i actually believe that i am disgusting and it hurts to hear other people confirm that even as a joke
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One of the strangest things that dating women/kink has taught me is that it is precisely the aspects of myself I was conditioned to believe were "gross" that are most attractive.
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I get it if you guys don’t want to, but could you say a little more about what things you mean by “gross”? Eg. body hair / physical traits, or sexual urges/impulses?
(Those were guesses at things that I think are attractive, but where I can imagine internalizing the opposite)
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idk it’s a whole gestalt thing. somewhere in me i’ve internalized that men are just fundamentally essentially disgusting. inside and out, the whole package
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I'm sorry you feel bad for voicing your feelings!
I'm on the wrong side of the gender coin here to really know what you're going through- but for what it's worth, I agree.
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I get the feeling like it's somehow 'lesser' to be vocal about appreciating physicality- whichever direction that goes in.
Base instincts and all that. But that leads to people feeling like they are 'bad' for feeling things, which never helps anything imo
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Yeahhh I regularly feel like I "shouldn't" be attracted to the physicality of other people
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that pesky mind/body dualism tho