But I assume that's not what QC meant - he meant that it's much more likely that one of me and you would get a message than him and Visa, because they are boys.
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Yeah, good point. Boys are gross. 😂
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i don’t want to make this a whole thing but i actually believe that i am disgusting and it hurts to hear other people confirm that even as a joke
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One of the strangest things that dating women/kink has taught me is that it is precisely the aspects of myself I was conditioned to believe were "gross" that are most attractive.
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I get it if you guys don’t want to, but could you say a little more about what things you mean by “gross”? Eg. body hair / physical traits, or sexual urges/impulses?
(Those were guesses at things that I think are attractive, but where I can imagine internalizing the opposite)
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idk it’s a whole gestalt thing. somewhere in me i’ve internalized that men are just fundamentally essentially disgusting. inside and out, the whole package
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I am sorry to hear that 😔
I’m not sure what to say, other than that’s genuinely not at all my experience of men (and also I think not for many other women), and that I hope/think that you may not always hold that belief.
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it helps to hear that. there’s a good opportunity to do some processing here but also i am so hungry oops
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Oh no!
I stopped giving you breakfast reminders.
I have been a bad friend 😔
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it’s okay i’ve been doing alright the last few days but today i am having this conversation on twitter! and it’s been real good so far i think
I'm glad!! I felt pretty shitty at first, but it seems like this is a conversation all of us are benefiting from. Getting a sneak peak behind gender lines, as it were!
And it's really great that you've helped some people feel less alone in their struggles 💕
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