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“As we develop, we will seek - and need - a special acknowledgment for our masculinity and femininity, a sense that our ‘girlness’ and ‘boyness’ are recognized and appreciated by our parents.”
HMMMMMM
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“We begin to believe that any wish for special caretaking and love is forbidden, off-limits, as if it meant asking for too much, for something we aren’t supposed to have.”
on one hand, straightforward synthesis of Running on Empty + Unlocking the Emotional Brain, and otoh owie
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def a part of me that read that sentence and felt vindicated, like “yes! special caretaking and love *is* forbidden and off-limits! it *is* asking for too much! we’re *not* supposed to have it!”
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to be clear “we” means me specifically the rest of you are innocent babies who deserve all the love in the world and i alone am wretched before god
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the difference between loving you and loving myself is that loving you does not threaten my connection to my parents in the slightest
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You know how you can't forgive the world if you can't forgive yourself?
Also, you can't love the world if you can't love yourself.
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hmm i think i get where people are coming from with this but i also think it’s more complicated than that
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10:40: "it's amazing that we nonetheless believe these fabrications, these deceptions, forgetting the importance of connection with each other, and forgetting the significance of love as precisely the thing that *doesn't* distinguish between self and other" 
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