First ~tipsypost!
I’ve read that men don’t often get compliments. I was surprised, bc I feel inclined to give compliments to men basically all the time. (And do?)
But also often seems very weird if I imagine the genders reversed, so I do it much less often than I’m inclined.
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Like: if someone makes a video about their work, and I message them “omg so handsome 🥰!” That would be *really* weird, right?
If I posted a neutral/work-oriented video and got a lot of comments on how I looked, I would feel pretty conflicted, I think.
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I think women share more selfies etc, where it is more clearly ok to publicly compliment them?
I’m a bit less certain about men, unless they post themselves... idk, dancing or something? Or a selfie I guess?
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I also recognize some sort of fear I have about complimenting too many men. Like, if I were to just go around telling men how I thought they were attractive, or looked good today or whatever, I’m *pretty* sure I’d either get judged about it, or people would think I was insincere.
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Or more likely, they’d think I was just seeking attention? So some moderation seems necessary at least.
In person it seems easier, because each context comes with rules about acceptable compliments. I guess I am mainly unsure about the internet.
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Also, strange realization: since it’s generally hard for me to accept compliments gracefully, I don’t want to put anyone in an uncomfortable position of having to... negotiate compliments?
Good lord, that seems dumb, right?
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Maybe at least since this is an alt account... I should do what I’m inclined to, so long as I intend well, am willing to learn/adjust, and am not likely to cause major harm? And just hope that overall I spark net positive emotions?
So, you’re all handsome and seem pretty great?
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