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there’s a public record of me being a bit of a cyberbully to a bunch of randos on stackexchange and a few other math sites online. not my proudest moments. thankful to

@krzhang

for calling me on it, i think he described it as “hitting them with your math status hammer”

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Agnes Callard

@AgnesCallard

· Aug 13, 2020

Somehow everyone has been bullied as a child, but no one has ever been a bully.

8:31 AM · Aug 13, 2020Twitter for iPad

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QC (in Berlin 7/29-??? w/ COVID

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i also once tag-team bullied someone at a CFAR workshop for like 4 hours. i was following someone else’s lead. we thought we were trying to point out to a participant his central psychological problem but in retrospect i think we were mostly just annoyed at him

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@QiaochuYuan

Aug 13, 2020

i was gonna say i don’t think i bullied anyone as a kid but then i remembered the 6th graders i was really pissed off at in 7th grade

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@QiaochuYuan

· Jan 14, 2020

i used to be a very angry kid and in 7th grade i 1) fashioned a "knife" out of a metal ruler, magnets, and construction paper and occasionally waved it at some 6th graders who pissed me off 2) brought a swiss army knife to school and waved it at my friend who had annoyed me

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Bullying is a form of passing on the feeling of being made to feel small I think.

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@QiaochuYuan

Aug 13, 2020

i was certainly doing it as an outlet for shame and insecurity all the way

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I think I bullied two guys (especially one of them) throughout junior high because they were two unfunny nerds telling lame jokes while sitting at a school bench right beside me and made me cringe. I often felt bad about that later in life.

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Oh I don’t hide that I had a mean girl phase in jr/se high. A shot venom w a smile at so many people. But after graduation I was ashamed of it & decided I didn’t want to be like that anymore. Called to apologize to one kid I was especially mean to & everything

Richard D. Bartlett (Berlin Aug 2-10)

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When I was a chef I made one of the waitresses cry cuz that's what chefs are like 😔

Pat LaVarre

@pelavarre

Aug 13, 2020

I drove me and three more home from some statewide reunion, and one in the back seat started crying because of something I said Faced me into the old old thought: “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts” That’d be me

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I remember the one person I ever bullied and I have fantasies (?) of going to their home and apologising, while also crying my ass off. (Mostly for me, I have no way of finding this person now.)