we normalized moving away from our high school communities to go to college then moving a second time away from our college communities to get a job
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i think we've mostly forgotten how much those transitions sucked (those of us who went through them) but for me the transition from college to post-college in particular was such a jarring shock, i went from having all my social needs met to having none of them met
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kinda fucked up how we’ve established that achievement and material accumulation are ultimately more important than our desire for meaningful community and a sense of place
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"If someone is contacted less often than the defining rate for more than a few months, emotional closeness will inexorably decline to a level appropriate for the new contact rate"
This is why moving, graduate college, etc. suck so much—your entire graph recedes outward
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i had a similarly jarring experience graduating college and i think it’s really shitty that my scene was forcibly disbanded by forces outside of our control
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really glad we seem to be slowly moving towards normalizing buying mansions (farms? monasteries? cult compounds?) with buddies
definitely encouraged by the energy behind the mansion/compound polycule thing (at least on twitter)
the problem that i can’t seem to resolve is exclusivity—i’d love to be in a group larger than like 8-10 people, but who gets to decide membership?
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