everything i want seems impossible. like, in both directions: it seems that once a thing becomes possible i stop wanting it
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One thing that helped me recently I got from nonviolent communication: try to find the base need instead of looking for a specific goal
it becomes less about getting a specific thing and more about the freeform movement towards fulfilling that need
Here's some needs examples
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all of my needs feel impossible to fulfill right now :S
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It's especially hard nowadays, with covid bungling everything up. A lot of people are in the same boat framed generically as stress.
So you're looking for more autonomy, because you lack the ability to work towards your needs?
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i have too much autonomy really :S
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Oh! Like the world is your oyster, but there's way too many damn oysters and you can't even figure out which one to start with?
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kinda? like nothing is constraining my dreams, goals, plans, etc. except that nothing feels both possible and motivating
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Hmm I've been in that ennui a couple of times getting out has been different every time. It usually returns to emotions not providing the motivation needed
In my experience so far emotions didn't motivate because:
1. bonded to trauma memories
2. suppression
3. unclear needs
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probably all three of those in my case, feels like i've been very slowly circling around whatever emotional thing is stuck
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Circling and circling, each orbit never quiiiite getting to the heart of it
But you'll get there eventually 💜
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