everything i want seems impossible. like, in both directions: it seems that once a thing becomes possible i stop wanting it
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you mean deliberately stop wanting things in order to make them possible? hmmmm 🤔🤔🤔
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felt experience of "reaching towards" maybe? i've been trying to notice these when they bubble up to see if i can build motivation towards doing anything other than tweet but they're all about things that seem impossible so then they die off :/
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do you think this is better or worse than the standard "i stop wanting something as soon as i get it"? seems like it saves some time at least.
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it's terrible i would like to want something and actually get it
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When you want something, you often try to obtain it. If you succeed, then you have it and no longer want it (eg. felt thirsty -> got water). If you fail enough (but not enough to give up entirely) it feels impossible (eg. relationship trouble). It's a selection effect!
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One thing that helped me recently I got from nonviolent communication: try to find the base need instead of looking for a specific goal
it becomes less about getting a specific thing and more about the freeform movement towards fulfilling that need
Here's some needs examples
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if you go "I need X" and then "action Y will give me what I want", you can get stuck focusing on action Y and its qualities. If I get stuck, I return back to the need. Or potentially, search for the need that is conflicting with doing action Y
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