what she says: go 👏 to 👏 therapy
what she means: i can see that you're really hurting and it frustrates me so much that i can tell how much better both of our lives would be if you got help with it. i love you but you're miserable and it's making me miserable. please get help
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what she says: go 👏 to 👏 therapy
what she means: i have been hurt by men who didn't know how to handle their feelings my entire life and i'm sick of it. now that i know it's possible to take responsibility for your own shit, i'm not gonna put up with people who aren't anymore
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what she says: go 👏 to 👏 therapy
what she means: i am beyond grateful for all the progress i feel like i've made in therapy and i fantasize about how much better the world would be if everyone else could make the same kind of progress. it feels too vulnerable to say that tho
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what she says: go 👏 to 👏 therapy
what she means: i don't know how to express my feelings except as demands, just like my parents; in demanding that strangers on the internet go to therapy i am actually replaying my family trauma with them. my therapist is not very good
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oh these were intended to be separate but they do actually flow together more than i was explicitly intending
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Another way of saying 'you're supposed to take all the responsibility here but you're failing because you're weak please try anything they told me that everyone's broken so go to therapy'.
I'm not against therapy.
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Seems like we could all do with working on our emotional openness and communication skills
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thx for translating this reaction ppl often had to me. was in continuous therapy (forced by family, from age 6). enraging to be constantly constructed as "defective," "helpless," "weak." working to 1) see my power and 2) use it for self-care, which (!) helps others
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