romeo stevens with another banger on facebook
"The shadow is about what wasn't present. Because there was abuse in the home, you never felt safe. There was an emotional experience you *didn't* have that also affected you."
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(hence the refrain from Running on Empty: "you can't remember what didn't happen")
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back to romeo: "Big Shadows are larger scale constructs that inform our basic stances towards self, other, and world. Things like whether other people are basically good intentioned or not. Whether certain activities are harmless fun or loaded with shame."
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"if you didn't see healthy ways of relating growing up, you do have an invisible need that those around you may not have. You need a type of data that you've never seen before and thus aren't oriented towards looking for."
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"The person campaigning for justice for someone else may have had no one stand up for them. The way that people express their love is also, quietly, the way they are showing you: 'This is how I was not loved.'"
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jinx, incidentally:
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your love languages are the forms of affection your parents didn't give you as a child
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Reading this book put so much into perspective and I cried a lot. I tried talking with my parents about it too and yeah I don't think that'll happen again either. Idk. Still processing those feelings but it did shine a light at least.
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