poll: what’s your ~gender | does (your own) fear feel erotic to you?
- ~male | yes
11.8% - ~male | no
73% - ~female | yes7.8%
- ~female | no7.5%
2,151 votesFinal results
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Conversation
why are men missing out like this
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anxiety is a boner killer for me, it is biological as far as I can tell
will delete later
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anxiety comes in so many flavours
some of them kill my boner too
but there is no attraction without at least a little anxiety, is there?
most of us just tend to be extremely picky about which kinds of anxiety we will experience as sexy
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eroticizing things, broadly speaking, is a lot of fun
I recommend it without much qualification
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my first intuition is that this exercise from Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott could be a useful starting point:
- 1) Get yourself into a relaxed state.
- 2) Create a container for yourself by lighting a candle and some incense, and setting a timer for 15 minutes.
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“relaxed state” is already hard for me 😩
hahaha just gotta be relaxed enough to be willing to converse with your kinky creatures, don't have to be a zen master lol
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