why use faceapp when you could just uhhhhhh live masc for a couple a years
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testosterone's a hell of a drug lmao
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Also I got better at taking photos, and I'm sad looking at all these old photos of me where I look like I felt dead (I did) (but they're better than the pre-T depression photos)
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gender exploration is suuuuper important, and man I am always so afraid to talk about my journey with all this. I was often driven by PTSD and self-hate, but still am actually nonbinary there's not as much room in the Discourse for that kinda nuance as I'd like.
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tbh I have a LOT of thoughts about how trauma has shaped my gender stuff that I usually keep to myself because bodily autonomy's the most important thing
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YEAHHHHHH
it's so tough to talk about the effect trauma can have without making it sound as if every decision is questionable or invalid
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this is something and I talk about a lot- we wanna work w/ trans/nb/gnc people to help them w trauma healing, which honestly would alleviate a lot of ppl's dysphoria significantly? But hard to even suggest that without ppl getting freaked out
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still trying to figure out how to gently insert this take into the discourse
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ok ok while we’re talking about this - there’s a weird way trans discourse seems to me to have borrowed “born this way” from the gay rights playbook, such that the strategy for arguing for legitimacy is based on some kind of implicit gender essentialism?
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whereas i think the healthier take all along has been “it doesn’t matter if you were born this way or not, i can respect you and your choices either way”, and there’s a much more fluid and playful way to restructure the whole thing
I don't disagree (am maybe trans/in therapy to consider transition) - but, like, Moloch - I mean that most people will reasonably view the goal of public political messaging as achieving a specific policy aim & will tailor the messaging they push accordingly
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As a recently-out trans person I find the “choices” language invalidating. My experience has been one of revelation and coming out has felt like *not* a choice because now that I know I’m a woman living as a man feels intolerable.
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Transitioning and being out isn’t a choice for me any more than taking my hand off a hot stove would be.
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