3. a lot of what's hard about allowing intense emotion is that it brings up other emotions - e.g. you may feel afraid of feeling angry, ashamed of feeling sad, etc. - and you can learn how to be with all of that too, although you may hurt yourself trying so be careful
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@Meaningness describes two important skills that tantric practice can develop (and that i think i've developed other ways): 1) loosening the need to feel a particular way about particular situations, and 2) loosening the need to do a particular thing with a particular emotion1 reply 5 proslijeđenih tweetova 50 korisnika označava da im se sviđaPrikaži ovu nit -
5. it can be helpful to take the internal family systems perspective that you have a bunch of "parts" and that your parts are feeling various emotions, e.g. one part may be feeling sad and another may be feeling angry at the sad part; helps you get some distance
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6. for me it's especially helpful to relate to my parts as small children (which they often are in some sense), so i can feel compassion for their suffering see also:https://twitter.com/QiaochuYuan/status/1192601917970505729 …
QC je dodan/na,
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7. the way many people emotionally self-regulate in practice is by either fighting an emotional energy with another one (e.g. sadness with anger as above) or shutting their emotions down generally;
@Meaningness also talks about this; there's another way! https://vividness.live/2012/07/03/unclogging/ …pic.twitter.com/LKzFbJYyk6
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8. it is possible to let go of the stance that emotions have any fixed meaning. feeling fear doesn't have to mean you're weak; feeling sadness doesn't have to mean you're a crybaby; feeling anger doesn't have to mean you're bad or evil much easier to allow emotion this way
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9. you don't have to do emotional regulation alone, although sometimes you may have no other choice. we naturally regulate each other. being around a calm person who's attuned to you is calming. you can learn to be this sort of person for others as well
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10. and, skillfully helping others with their emotions is hard and most people don't know how to do it! by default people also attach fixed meanings to *others'* emotions - e.g. if my friend is sad i must be sad with them and try to help them or else i'm a bad friend
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11. you can learn to let go of your meanings about others' emotions as well, and just sit with their emotion and help them sit with it too. this may involve doing some work on your own about e.g. your insecurities around being a bad friend
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12. it's actually not helpful to hold onto things like "i have to be sad when my friend is sad", it leads to other people holding things like "i can't tell my friend i'm sad because i'll make them sad and that'll hurt them"
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elaborated this into its own thread, not a fan of the wording i used anymore b/c it's natural to feel sad that our friends are sad, *and*... (sorry david can't figure out how to untag you)https://twitter.com/QiaochuYuan/status/1221970036077649920?s=20 …
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