QC

yeah sex is good but have you ever tried helping a friend cry about how he feels responsible for his dad's death and - this is the crazy shit - how he *needs* to feel responsible for his dad's death, because otherwise the world doesn't make any sense and god is a piece of shit

coherence therapy calls this "symptom coherence" - taking the stance that every thing you do that drives you nuts makes deep sense once you get the underlying emotional reality that's driving it. it very cleanly articulates something i've been grasping at for years and years