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the only thing that's actually worked for me is trauma work in a broad sense and i suspect this is true of many other people as well. there is a risk of running into a particular kind of victim mindset but it doesn't need to be there. can you say more about your intuition?

Let me DM you.

Oh I guess you have DMs off. Well I can try to go in-depth through DMs. The gist of it is that I had a hard time once and started to get into that trauma stuff and then I realized I was kind of imagining a lot of it. What helps me is just moving forward.

Also, I noticed that some people got into a heavy victim mentality when they had that mindset. And it was a lifelong thing which is hard to get out of.

Also I agree that motivation focus etc. are basically ineffective when you're going through a really hard time or when the issue is basically about life meaning, which is way deeper.

Finally, I think you can do something similar to "trauma work" but in a more common way by just having a lot of good friends or family who will listen when you talk about your feelings.

for me the key feature of trauma-like stuff is not being a victim but the way in which the past intrudes on the present