QC

Been mostly offline for a couple of weeks now. Good news: it really is possible to build a new personality Bad news: it really is a new personality

Psychologists, IME, disagree and say that personality is mostly fixed. Of course, they generally mean personality *traits* like Big Five etc., and sure, those rarely change significantly. But the arrangement & dynamics of those traits is much more significant than the values.

My own trait distribution is much the same. Ambiverted, high agreeableness (but frequently rude), low-going-on-average conscientiousness, extremely high openness, low neuroticism. But all my stories are changing, rapidly. And with them, the relationships between those traits.

Depending on your perspective, it could be easy to see no difference at all. Sometimes an aged face looks like the face of decades past when you look at it just so, under the right lighting. The internal experience, meanwhile, is one of being pulled up by the roots.

E.g. I've always felt like something was off about me. Never received a diagnosis, but something just didn't feel right. Spent a lot of time recently around someone with narcissistic personality disorder *in remission* (a rarity, to put it mildly). And, uh, I can relate. A lot.

can you give more details here? asking for, uh, a friend (who is me)

Which aspect are you looking for details on? Remission and what it looks like; relatable traits...?

the traits, yeah. have had a sense for awhile that i trend narcissistic when i'm happy and use sadness as a way to stop myself from doing that. would also be interested in hearing about remission and what it looks like!