anyone thinking seriously about how to redesign dating? i think it's pretty clear that 1) modern dating is super broken and 2) finding people healthy long-term romantic relationships is one of the best things we could do for them so let's fix it already
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random topic to get started: i don't see anywhere in modern dating that you get strong positive signals of trustworthiness. many people are substituting trustworthiness = you have the same ideology as me, and this has nothing to do with trustworthiness
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hotel concierge gets it: https://hotelconcierge.tumblr.com/post/173526578129/shame-society …pic.twitter.com/asXriGNOwz
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it would be great if we still had villages. if you date people you've been in community with your whole life you have a whole lifetime's worth of data on how trustworthy they are, not only from your experience but from gossip. you don't get any of that with a tinder rando
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so, taking that train of thought seriously: given that we don't have villages, how might we redesign dating to produce honest signals of trustworthiness? my first thought is to add more stress: do harder stuff together sooner, e.g. take a class, do a hard escape room or sth
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Gauntlets are great. By facing challenging things together, there's less to be afraid of. This might break the relationship, but if it doesn't, it'll be stronger for it.
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i really hope that "gauntlet" here refers to a specific activity i could pay an organization to set up as a date because that sounds great
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Here's a list by
@edelwax that I think counts. No organization or payment needed.https://medium.com/@edelwax/23-adventure-dates-aaee75711785 …1 reply 0 retweets 2 likes
aww these look fun! could hybridize with the authentic relating games manual:https://www.authrev.com/ar_resources/
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