anyone thinking seriously about how to redesign dating? i think it's pretty clear that 1) modern dating is super broken and 2) finding people healthy long-term romantic relationships is one of the best things we could do for them so let's fix it already
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random topic to get started: i don't see anywhere in modern dating that you get strong positive signals of trustworthiness. many people are substituting trustworthiness = you have the same ideology as me, and this has nothing to do with trustworthiness
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hotel concierge gets it: https://hotelconcierge.tumblr.com/post/173526578129/shame-society …pic.twitter.com/asXriGNOwz
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it would be great if we still had villages. if you date people you've been in community with your whole life you have a whole lifetime's worth of data on how trustworthy they are, not only from your experience but from gossip. you don't get any of that with a tinder rando
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so, taking that train of thought seriously: given that we don't have villages, how might we redesign dating to produce honest signals of trustworthiness? my first thought is to add more stress: do harder stuff together sooner, e.g. take a class, do a hard escape room or sth
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Escape rooms are fake. Try road trippin in a national park in a camper van, sightseeing as much as possible, and trying to work from the road at the same time, a few months into the relationship. We almost killed each other, but grew soooo close together in result.
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The best and the worst thing about a camper van is there’s literally nowhere to hide when you’re upset. Especially when it’s cold and raining outside, and the nearest town is 100km away. You have no choice but to figure something out together, or die trying.
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