all of this advice is downstream of / generated by something more fundamental. what is it? if i had to name it, maybe "understand, deeply, that the person you're listening to is real, exists as much as you do, and is a person you could love"https://twitter.com/emilyca5/status/1149165769067884544 …
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i am fed up with tips and advice. people have too much of that already. what we need are tools for transmitting ways of perceiving and being, which is much harder but produces much deeper and longer-lasting change
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the only "tool for transmitting ways of perceiving and being" that I ever found was to get married
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sounds like a good one! more or less the only one i know is apprenticeship
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Listen quietly; show you’re present with nods not words
Don’t be thinking of what to say next
Allow for pauses & silence
Ask questions to help the speaker deepen or expand
Don’t feel compelled to fix or give advice
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