QC

I know too many men who straight-up have trauma around relating to other men - because their fathers abused them, because boys made fun of them growing up, all sorts of reasons.

One of the most eye-opening things I did in 2018 was befriend several sex workers, and what they all told me is that tons of their clients are looking for emotional connection, not sex. One of them had a session that was literally just crying the entire time.

These sex workers are de facto therapists, sometimes helping men who would never see a therapist (due to pride etc). They talk to their clients about their failing marriages, etc. They're sometimes the only people in their clients' lives they can open up to.

(They also get clients who are just looking to dominate a hot piece of meat, stuff like that. Those men aren't exactly happy either; they're even farther from understanding what it is they actually want. But at least they pay my friends' rent!)

I have learned a lot about the state of modern masculinity from sex workers, and it looks really bad. Even (especially?) rich, "successful" men are lonely and totally disconnected from themselves and the people in their lives. They're lost. How much worse must it be for incels?

I think sex workers can be an important part of the way forward. There is a societal role we mostly don't have and badly need, in the neighborhood of sex worker / therapist / priestess, cf. the Kushiel's Legacy series. Teachers of sacred sexuality.