I personally have consented to touching and being touched in ways that I did not like in retrospect. I didn't know how to object. I wanted the person touching me to like me and to think I liked them. I conceptualize this as: I consented but wasn't participating.
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Thinking about it leads to hard and uncomfortable ethical, psychological, spiritual, and philosophical territory: what does it mean to want something? How can you even tell that you want something? What does it mean to manipulate someone? Etc.
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Example: if you subscribe to something like Internal Family Systems' framework that people have different parts that want different things, if Alice has a part that wants to have sex and another part that doesn't want to have sex, does Alice want to have sex?
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What if Alice identifies with the part of her that wants to have sex and thinks the part of her that doesn't want to have sex is bad and wrong? This is actually a hard question and I haven't seen any discussion of consent engage with it.
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"How do I dance beautifully with other people" is a spirituality-complete question: trying to answer it is a complete spiritual path. Consent is better than what we had before, but there's so much more work for us to do here.
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