It seems to be a bad idea to me to deliberately inflate the self esteem of children. If they are smart they notice the gaslighting, if they are not they develop impostor syndrome. Both undermines their ability to properly judge and regulate their relationship to the world.
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Replying to @Plinz
How high self esteem would lead to impostor syndrome? Impostor syndrome IS low self esteem.
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Replying to @onemanstartup
Almost no child is stupid enough to think that undeserved esteem properly reflects their abilities. This damages the relationship between ability and self assessment. Inflated self esteem tends to go hand in hand with deep insecurity. External feedback should provide calibration.
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Replying to @Plinz
How a child can differentiate undeserved praise from deserved? Even adults often can't do that. It's also based on your subjective feeling of effort and comparison with others. For example my insecurities comes from comparison with geniuses and high achievers.
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Replying to @onemanstartup
A child will usually notice know hard it was to get a certain result, if it failed to perform to its own expectations etc. If external feedback cannot be synchronized with own judgement, own judgement is unreliable, which will lead to insecurity.
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Replying to @Plinz @onemanstartup
I feel quite secure in the presence of true high achievers and geniuses, because I understand why I am neither. I am very grateful that I was allowed to get to know a few of them.
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Replying to @framboso @onemanstartup
I would fail at some of the puzzles that Chomsky has figured out in his late teens. I have understood less by now than Stephen Wolfram did in his twenties. It would take me many decades to get where Terrence Tao is today.
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No, I am not. However, I came at some of his problems from a different angle.
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