To clarify, she was a student in one of your classes? You had an impact on her qualifications?
A female student once handed me a note that said, "I want to f--k you." She would have been 18, I was in my late 20s. It was entirely unexpected, not sure we'd ever spoken outside a classroom. Was her behaviour:
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Well, it was my last day. She handed me the note after my last lesson. So... no subsequent impact on her qualifications. Actually, I never saw her again.
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Hmm, that removes the student/lecturer issue... but why not just ask you for a coffee or beer?
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I have absolutely no idea! At the time, I thought there was a non-trivial chance it was some sort of dare between friends - i.e., not serious. But I was leaving, so... I didn't really think much about it.
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If the target is in a position of power over you, not harassment, sylill wrong. If the target was a subordinate you have some power over, it’s harassment!
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Hmmm. I think that's too stark. I've seen female teachers harassed by male pupils. Institutional power flows one direction, other sorts of power in other directions.
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Good point!
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I would have changed my answer had I read the comments first, from A to D, since the teacher/student relationship had ended.
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I was interested in the general case, rather than the specific circumstances of my situation, so you answered the right way! :)
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Gotcha. For the specific case I may have included option E: yeah, buddy. But that’s the sophomore in me who has definitely not received such a note.
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When the final tally is complete, tell us, did you hand her back a note saying "thankyou for your kind offer but I'm trying to preserve my vital fluids" ??
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The method was direct but gentle, it allowed you to completely ignore the request and there were no professional issues involved. Therefore I would say it wasn't even inappropriate. As adults we should be able to deal with sexual requests in a calm manner
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