I interviewed Justin as part of my dissertation. He was formally accused of sexual assault at his university. He, too, claimed that his life was "ruined" by the allegations. But when I asked him to describe exactly what was different for him, he didn't have much to say.
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He had gotten poor grades that semester, but they weren't any worse than usual. A lot of people knew about the allegations, but he had told most of them himself and nearly everyone took his side. Even two of his victim's roommates offered to testify on his behalf.
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Occasionally, the friends of his victim would warn other women in their immediate circle about Justin when he tried to date them. But they usually dated him anyway. He actually used the "false allegation" as a pickup strategy on first dates.
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It went like this: (1) bring up the allegation as proof of how "honest" and "vulnerable" you are; (2) show a misleading set of texts as evidence that the allegation was false; (3) tell the new date that you totally understand if she is uncomfortable; (4) set second date.
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Justin talked about how the allegations had "ruined" his life as part of this dating strategy. He bragged that the method worked every time and that he had "a lot of sex" now.
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If anything, Justin (and most perpetrators) got a lot of advantages from the administrators from using the "ruined lives" rhetoric. (I interviewed them, too.) For example, Justin's bad grades? He got them wiped from his record and his tuition reimbursed.
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And not just for the semester of the investigation--he got all of his low grades from his entire college career wiped off his transcript. He intended to continue erasing bad grades from his transcript through the rest of his college career.
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Justin also had close relationships with high level administrators after the investigation. That worked out to his advantage.
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In one case, another victim of Justin's tried to report a sexual assault. The administrator who heard the report never filed the proper paperwork or notified the right people for the report to move forward. She didn't want to make Justin's life any harder.
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The same thing happened when a professor tried to report that three other women had disclosed to him that they had been sexually assaulted by Justin.
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In general, administrators were more concerned with "ruining lives" than letting a perpetrator re-offend on campus. Stories like Justin's were common in my field site.
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If anything, most administrators thought that the system was rigged against perpetrators. (Even though they rarely held any of them accountable.) They openly admitted to giving perpetrators legal advice and actively helping them build their cases.
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They refused to help victims in the same way, saying it would be inappropriate for a "neutral" party to benefit one side. This often meant that victims filed the wrong type of complaint for the abuse they experienced, making it even easier to dismiss cases.
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Meanwhile, it was the victims (and I interviewed them, too) who were suffering. I completed the last interview for my dissertation two days ago. The victim I interviewed attempted to take her own life in the middle of the investigation process.
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Her assailant was found in violation of the university's code of sexual misconduct. (In plain speak, everyone agreed he had committed a sexual assault.) But the university had taken so long with the investigation that he had already graduated, so he wasn't punished.
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Actually, he was invited to apply to the university for graduate school once his victim had graduated. That invitation came in the same letter that said he had been found responsible for committing an act of sexual assault.
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After our interview ended, I gave the survivor advice about how to drop out. She felt so traumatized by her university that the university's logo had become a trigger for her. She was set to graduate in the spring, but she couldn't imagine seeing that emblem for another day.
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As part of my dissertation, I set out to gather evidence of whether or not men accused of rape really had their "lives ruined." I never found any evidence of a ruined life. But I heard a lot of stories from survivors about overwhelming trauma, including a lot of suicide attempts.
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Stop perpetuating the myth that rape allegations "ruin lives." They don't. But spreading that myth around has real implications for survivors who will be traumatized over and over again by the people who believe that a perpetrator's "ruined life" is all there is at stake.
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I've already gotten a few requests to share my dissertation once it's written. I keep an email list of interested folks. If you want to be on it, send me an email at nbedera@umich.edu. Just know it will probably be a while because I just finished data collection!
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It's time for me to get back to actually writing this dissertation now, so I'm going to stop responding to comments. But if you have questions about the research, I recommend looking through the comments I've already left. I might have answered it already!
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