Am I the only person who worries about calculating how much contribution or worth they bring to an interaction, in order to justify the opportunity cost incurred by other people spending time with me? maybe? okay
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Replying to @Meta_Aesthetic
You're not the only one, it's pretty common. I think sometimes it's a reaction to actually being excluded, tolerated or unwanted at points in life. This can ferment into "wanting to keep justifications close just in case" That can last a lot longer then they're actually needed
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Replying to @CatsterQed @Meta_Aesthetic
Sometimes it's tracable to a capitalist fostered idea of individualism. That weird game of status, achievement, conversational space. It can make people feel inadequate or worthless. It's a commoditized, unhealthy approach to human relationships
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Replying to @CatsterQed @Meta_Aesthetic
The education system is pretty good at fostering that feeling of being lower priority t b h
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Replying to @CatsterQed
Funny you point that out, because I'm torn between education propping up the metrics-based achievement game and it being the only thing in my childhood that made me feel wanted / appreciated (in hindsight, not the best source for said emotions!)
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I default to this terrible commodified view of relationships, which has been a slog to work through, but I suppose such fundamental constructs always take a long time to dissolve.
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