Why is it awful?
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Each of the stage transitions requires you to abandon a comfortable, functional way if being that you called “myself” and to accept that you will be confused and lost and dysfunctional and fucking up often for several years as you learn the difficult new way of being.
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Replying to @Meaningness @AtaraxJim and
So..1 story coming out of this synthesis here is that those of us who have given up on rationality being The Way at age 28 have ~12 years ahead of us stuck in the wilderness before we can be...whatever the fuck 5 is :P (Or we're v, v wrong about our relationship to rationality)
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Replying to @utotranslucence @Meaningness and
I mean, and/or the Kegan stages are a partial model anyways, and we can play at being at different levels...
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Replying to @utotranslucence @AtaraxJim and
Yes, fwiw I think they can be brilliantly illuminating in some cases, but don’t seem to fit some people’s experience at all, and in any case shouldn’t be concretized.https://youtu.be/m3dZl3yfGpc
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Replying to @Meaningness @AtaraxJim and
I haven't listen to the podcast yet, I'll admit--do you know what the biggest reason Kegan gives for no 5's younger than 40? (I.e. what does his theory say, not just 'we didn't find any')
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Replying to @utotranslucence @AtaraxJim and
Afaik there’s no mechanism story; the claim is purely empirical. My mechism story is that you have to have spent enough years in stage 4 to have a felt sense of the patterns in both its working well and in its failing. (Intellectual understanding that it sometimes does fail is >
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Replying to @Meaningness @utotranslucence and
> helpful but not nearly sufficient.) It takes several years to accumulate that experience after you’ve already mastered stage 4 (so it usually does work), and usually you don’t master 4 until mid-20s
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Replying to @Meaningness @utotranslucence and
I know when Zak Stein's work on stage theories emphasizes that people aren't "at a level" but that instead the level describes something that happens in a particular interaction, when supported by a particular context
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Replying to @rfinz @Meaningness and
so may be useful to think about the transition as a general stage-5ification of more and more interactions across more contexts—rather than as a whole tidal change all at once
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Yes generally I think most researchers have this view now. Kegan may be an exception; I’m not sure if he’s commented on this in recent years
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