Maya Forstater

Of course there can be different definitions for things. Being a woman is a social identity based on other people reading you as female, and being a woman is also a function of being female: chromosomes, gametes, genitalia

We can use both definitions. Usually they align. When they don’t its polite and kind to treat people the way they want to be treated, even when they don’t ‘pass’ as the sex they’d like to be seen as.

But here is the thing. Sometimes the interests of the female people (who may get pregnant, who tend to be physically less powerful, who face sex discrimination & violence from men) diverge from the interests of people who are male but would like to be treated as women socially.

When these interests diverge (such as in questions over who has access to single sex spaces where women are vulnerable, who can compete in women’s sports), we have to be able to weigh the different interests up as a society and talk about it.

Telling women that they must be kind when their interests are being traded off in favour of male people is something we should learn to notice and stop doing.

Right now people who make that case for talking about this calmly and carefully are called names — bigot, TERF, nazi.

And so maybe you haven’t engaged with their arguments. The debate is toxic. Cognitive dissonance is uncomfortable. There are only so many hours in a day. And if you are a bloke (or a ‘cis-man’ as they say) you probably feel like you best keep out of it.

Or maybe you agree that its a problem that issue is not being talked about more seriously carefully. But you are fearful of being called names, or worse. I get that. I’ve lost my job at @cgdev over this and i’m not going to berate anyone for not taking risks they can’t afford to