(2) opinion at the end, we may change some aspects of it if we reach an agreement, or show more compassion for the other side after seeing it from a pov they did not before. Understanding I find is the first step to change, and it can be a give and take from both people.
And again I said it works SOMETIMES, in cases like that I'd bail after I see its just toxic and going nowhere, but sometimes it will lead to a interesting conversation, like our current one right now. You never know how it will turn out so just keep civil and hope for the best.